Active listening is a skill that one possesses and has developed a specific communication that allows one to fully hear what another person is trying to say. Since listening and communication are essential elements which can help improve relationships, in order for a couple to be successful in their relationship, they must communicate and listen in a meaningful way.
Let the other person speak
When you allow time for the other person to speak, this is already indicating that you will also take effort to refrain yourself from arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position or to resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, and, therefore, when you do these, you will have more chances of listening well to the person speaking and understanding what he/she is driving at.
In a dialogue conversation, to be an active listener is to see yourself in the other person’s shoes, putting more importance on the other person’s emotional needs and, in this way, you will have the opportunity to understand the other person’s perspective.
Don’t make immediate conclusions
It is not right to immediately make conclusions when you are in the middle of a dialogue with a person because it means that you already have a pre-existing belief about the person and that blocks you from doing an active listening; therefore, to avoid this, clear your thought from this pre-existing belief and focus more on the dialogue, making a goal to resolve the issue for the betterment of both parties.
When you have given sufficient time for the other person to speak up, now is your time to inquire on issues that you need to clarify, but see to it that when you inquire it is not accusing the person and when the person answers your queries, listen carefully so you can understand the truth of his/her statements.
Summarize what the other person says
Part of making clear with issues that are in the process of being resolved through a dialogue is to paraphrase what the other person says, not to be rude about it but to confirm whether you heard all of the other person’s statements right; doing this makes you to communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and the exchange of conversation that comes with this can help you continue to be an active listener. To become an effective communicator, you just have to learn to listen just as much as you need to learn to speak, so that whether you are in a one-on-one conversation or in a group meeting, focusing on what others are saying allows you to put yourself in a more effective position, because when you listen correctly, you also learn more.